She may have had previous experiences that make her think you just want to fulfill a fantasy or aren’t taking her seriously if you use that particular word.
A good rule of thumb is to avoid assuming your partner feels a certain way just because of their race.
The richness of our data further allows us to identify many determinants of same-race preferences.
Subjects' backgrounds, including the racial composition of the ZIP code where a subject grew up and the prevailing racial attitudes in a subject's state or country of origin, strongly influence same-race preferences.
He surveyed nearly 2,000 men across Australia asking them to rank how attractive or unattractive they found particular racial groups. The least were Asian, Indian and Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islanders."That to me represents really compelling evidence that this is not a matter of preference because if this was a matter of preference you would expect a degree of randomness," he said.
Certain racial groups become associated with masculinity and some with femininity - Asian women fit into this category, according to Denton.
Just be aware that the person you’re dating may be sensitive about subjects to which you just can’t relate.
It generally manifests in more subtle ways, according to Denton, like not replying to a message from someone in the list of racial groups you don't fancy. When I interviewed men about their experiences with sexual racism, predominantly they discussed these very periphery, hard to see, hard to identify feelings of exclusion characterised their online experiences."Denton said his research has found guys who rated low have come from historically marginalised groups.
Christian said all the dating data he'd seen fits the same pattern: In Australia, dating site RSVP does an annual study to gauge attitudes to dating. It showed while four out of five people said they would date outside our own race, only half actually had. It's a bit more complex than that, according to Denton Callandar from the Kirby Institute at the University of New South Wales.
"Racial bias feeds into every single aspect of our social lives," he said."So it's not surprising that we would find the same types of racial inequality that we see in society broadly, in people's sexual and romantic lives as well.""No one likes to be called a racist but the reality is that we are living in a world that has been, for centuries, one based on systems of racial inequality - so it's the legacy of those systems that we're seeing play out today and exist in our private lives".
According to Christian Rudder, co-founder of Ok Cupid, the pattern has stayed pretty stable through the boom in online dating, from 2009 to 2014."Ok Cupid users are certainly no more open-minded than they used to be.
If anything, racial bias has intensified a bit," he wrote in his blog.